She stared at me aghast.
"You want me to what?" she cried.
"It's time. You've been talking about it for months...you're ready to deal with it."
I'd been working with Sharon for several months; she'd shed 15kgs at this point.
To her credit she'd kicked a bunch of unresourceful habits. The small changes she'd created were rapidly gaining momentum.
Her home, and the hoarded mess housed within, was her next challenge.
You might be wondering, "What's clutter has to do with weight loss?" Watch and learn, and please, Do Not Do This At Home...
So, I encouraged her to charity anything she no longer absolutely loved.
My personal rule of thumb is simple. If I love it = I keep it. If I love-it-not = the charity shop wins and I give someone else the opportunity to love it.
And... "If in doubt, chuck it out."
Her homework was thirty minutes a day.
One drawer at a time.
Building momentum as she went.
Each week, during our call, she'd report back on her progress. Each week, she had a new reason (aka excuse) why she simply couldn't let go of some unloved, un-used item, clutter-y item.
The box was bursting full of unflattering elasticised trousers, stretchy tops and baggy jumpers that she'd taken refuge under in her old life, when she was 15kgs heavier.
She no longer liked or needed these outfits because she'd shed the weight. And with her increasing confidence, her tastes had changed. She'd begun to cherish tailored cuts and natural fabrics, and wanted to wear clothes she loved.
She laughed as she got it.
In essence, what she saying to her unconscious mind was...
I believe so deeply in my own failure that I'm holding onto physical things that represent that possibility. Every time I see this box of Fat Clothes I will be reminded of my inevitable failure. My unconscious mind knows that in the dark recesses of my wardrobe, there are items that prove I don't believe in my own success.
Before our next session, she'd made the trip to the good folk down at the Salvation Army charity shop.
She shared how it was to say goodbye to the Fat Box.
"It was terrifying. I was letting go of my Plan B. I was saying to the world, I thoroughly believe in my own success and my weight loss."
She had never backed herself in such a solid way before.
Clearly there's more to weight loss than clearing old outfits from your wardrobe. But I am a firm believer that we each need to pay attention to the energy of the stuff that surrounds us.
Hoarding and cluttering is a symptom of something else. Usually a need to control. You're saying, "I don't believe in myself" or "what if I can't survive without it?"
It's doubly-hard to lose weight (make money, be happy, whatever your goal is) if you're sending those kinds of fear-based messages to your unconscious mind.
It is vital to pay attention to what we're telling our unconscious minds when we hoard stuff.
Now you, dear reader.
What are you telling your unconscious mind? What are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Is it time you had your own de-clutter session?
If you're sitting there reading this thinking, "My wardrobe's spotless, sista, there's nothing to send to charity".
Nice work.
Are you ready for the next step?
I propose we go one step further... are you ready to de-clutter your mind?
Cast off that little nagging voice that says you're not good enough... clear away those excuses that keep you stuck in your comfort zone... purge any negative habits, attitudes and traits that prevent you being the healthiest and happiest version of you.
Clear out the nooks and crannies of your mind and your soul.
Pick one drawer to work on today.
"You want me to what?" she cried.
"It's time. You've been talking about it for months...you're ready to deal with it."
I'd been working with Sharon for several months; she'd shed 15kgs at this point.
To her credit she'd kicked a bunch of unresourceful habits. The small changes she'd created were rapidly gaining momentum.
Her home, and the hoarded mess housed within, was her next challenge.
You might be wondering, "What's clutter has to do with weight loss?" Watch and learn, and please, Do Not Do This At Home...
So, I encouraged her to charity anything she no longer absolutely loved.
My personal rule of thumb is simple. If I love it = I keep it. If I love-it-not = the charity shop wins and I give someone else the opportunity to love it.
And... "If in doubt, chuck it out."
Her homework was thirty minutes a day.
One drawer at a time.
Building momentum as she went.
Each week, during our call, she'd report back on her progress. Each week, she had a new reason (aka excuse) why she simply couldn't let go of some unloved, un-used item, clutter-y item.
- "But I spent half my bonus on it and I MIGHT need it someday!"
- "It was a gift...I've got to keep it, don't I?"
- "I NEVER use it but it was SUCH a bargain!"
The box was bursting full of unflattering elasticised trousers, stretchy tops and baggy jumpers that she'd taken refuge under in her old life, when she was 15kgs heavier.
She no longer liked or needed these outfits because she'd shed the weight. And with her increasing confidence, her tastes had changed. She'd begun to cherish tailored cuts and natural fabrics, and wanted to wear clothes she loved.
- "So, Sharon," I asked. "Why don't you want to let these things go?"
- "Well, here's the thing. If I put on weight again, I might need them one day. If I fail, and I don't keep the weight off, I might wish I had kept these clothes."
- "So, you'd be overweight and p*ssed off with yourself...but at least you'll have those faded elastic-waisted tracky pants?"
She laughed as she got it.
In essence, what she saying to her unconscious mind was...
I believe so deeply in my own failure that I'm holding onto physical things that represent that possibility. Every time I see this box of Fat Clothes I will be reminded of my inevitable failure. My unconscious mind knows that in the dark recesses of my wardrobe, there are items that prove I don't believe in my own success.
Before our next session, she'd made the trip to the good folk down at the Salvation Army charity shop.
She shared how it was to say goodbye to the Fat Box.
"It was terrifying. I was letting go of my Plan B. I was saying to the world, I thoroughly believe in my own success and my weight loss."
She had never backed herself in such a solid way before.
Clearly there's more to weight loss than clearing old outfits from your wardrobe. But I am a firm believer that we each need to pay attention to the energy of the stuff that surrounds us.
Hoarding and cluttering is a symptom of something else. Usually a need to control. You're saying, "I don't believe in myself" or "what if I can't survive without it?"
It's doubly-hard to lose weight (make money, be happy, whatever your goal is) if you're sending those kinds of fear-based messages to your unconscious mind.
It is vital to pay attention to what we're telling our unconscious minds when we hoard stuff.
Now you, dear reader.
What are you telling your unconscious mind? What are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Is it time you had your own de-clutter session?
If you're sitting there reading this thinking, "My wardrobe's spotless, sista, there's nothing to send to charity".
Nice work.
Are you ready for the next step?
I propose we go one step further... are you ready to de-clutter your mind?
Cast off that little nagging voice that says you're not good enough... clear away those excuses that keep you stuck in your comfort zone... purge any negative habits, attitudes and traits that prevent you being the healthiest and happiest version of you.
Clear out the nooks and crannies of your mind and your soul.
Pick one drawer to work on today.
- Just one.
- And let it go.
- Today!
- Uncluttered love, Avril
Avril Carpenter helps women ignite their thinner sparkle. An
expert in the psychology of weight loss she helps clients pinpoint
what's going on between their ears that prevents them being their happy
weight.
Clients discover that when their mindset is sorted, the number on the scale takes care of itself. Forever.
If you're ready to lose weight, look absolutely fabulous (daaarling) and ignite your thinner sparkle c'mon over to http://avrilcarpenter.com/
You'll find a bunch of F.R.E.E resources and weekly tips which you can apply immediately to get your thinner sparkle on. Your thinner-sparkly-self will thank you for it.
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Clients discover that when their mindset is sorted, the number on the scale takes care of itself. Forever.
If you're ready to lose weight, look absolutely fabulous (daaarling) and ignite your thinner sparkle c'mon over to http://avrilcarpenter.com/
You'll find a bunch of F.R.E.E resources and weekly tips which you can apply immediately to get your thinner sparkle on. Your thinner-sparkly-self will thank you for it.
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